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The divorce rate is rising in India. The specter of divorce is haunting us all. From Kolkata to Chennai or Punjab to Kerala, the upper classes to the middle classes or metros to semi-urban areas, all are affected by it. Why is this sudden increase in the divorce rate? A lot of variable are acting here. Today’s India has learned to accept the divorces. The parents of the divorced daughters have started to believe that their daughter can also have a life after marriage or without a husband. Women have become financially independent. They have learned to provide reasons to all those judgmental friends and relatives queries. Their moral empowerment helps them to end an abusive relationship, ignoring all the hurdles they may face in the future. Couples have learned to give each other enough time to understand their differences before deciding to become parents.  So that they can get separated it they don’t feel compatible and are also, not held back by the fear of its impact on children.

The drastic change in today’s working environment has created a lot of impact on relationships. In most of the cases both individuals (husband and wife) are working professionals. The increasing competition between different companies, create a huge stress on the individuals. This stress can build frustration and tension which may destroy a marriage, whether one partner is working, or both of them. If a man marries a working woman he should prepare his mind to share the household works too. But it happens rarely. Men tend to think women’s career a temporary thing whereas women expect their husbands to do household works. If wife is working late they expect their husband to manage the home although it’s a myth. In some instances where wife earns more than husband, creates inferiority complex in husband and sometime wife starts to think of their husband, less worthy.

But if anybody thinks that to resolve this problem wife should sacrifice her career and liberty, then they are absolutely wrong. If it’s the only option, then why shouldn’t husbands do so? Though it’s not possible, as most of the men prefer, being the bread-winners. And, most women don’t want to get bonded again in the shackles of lost identity and ignorance. All these attitude problems give rise to divorce. Young generations are educated enough. They are well aware of the laws. They know how to retain their freedom. The whole thought process towards marriage have changed. People like to remain good friends after divorce than a bad husband/wife while married. Divorce is a cupcake for them; all it matters is a healthy life.