Saturday 29 December 2012


We were dresses to convey an impression of ourselves to people, but at the end of day we dress according to our moods or how we feel.  Our outfit reflects the state of our mind. How we are feeling.

When we open our closet door in the morning, we may choose clothes not according to the practical wardrobe consideration but according to our feelings. Our moods can be happy or sad. If we are happy, we tend to select cloth, which is well cut and figure enhancing. They are mostly made up of bright and beautiful fabrics. In the other hand, when we are in a bad mood we gravitate toward baggy tops and jeans, though jeans is consider a happy outfit but its rated below and taken under consideration if paired with appropriate jewelry and shoes.

Our mood gets reflected when we wear a uniform. A good is visible when a uniform is worn that got no creases and paired with bright cardigan or a fancy jacket, whereas the vice verse can be felt when a gray hoodie or a saggy sweater is worn over it.

Other than moods, dresses can reflect what we feel about ourselves. If we have a low self esteem and don’t feel good about our body, we wear clothes that hide us. We also take less effort to look presentable. A positive vibe about ourselves can make us choose more flattering and noticeable outfits. 

Changing our clothes can change our mood. Sometimes we like to use this idea or get trapped in this. So, we sometime wear our favorite outfit to boost our mood. In this way self-esteem and confidence raises up. Whereas, our mood gets darken, if we wear drab, unflattering clothes.

By applying the basic behavioral therapy of fashion application we can turn our low feeling in to a happy one. Avoiding the impulse toward clothes that reflect that bad feeling, we can go for something that we usually choose on a happy day. It’s all like having a chocolate ice cream during a heart break or a fight.

We all deserve to be happy. So, try to choose happy day clothes whenever you are selecting a outfit, irrespective of our moods.


Friday 7 December 2012


"Whether love is all you need or you're Miss Independent, being in love is a whole new world with every relationship. You might be in a passionate affair or a friends-for-life 30-year marriage, but understanding the kind of love you’re in-or used to be in-will help you live happily ever after. The type of love you're in differs between relationships and even different times in your life. Still, you may be more prone to one type of love or another, but a PASSIONATE and SELFLESS one is what girls dreamed of. So, here is a quick preview on how it looks or feels like or how we are benefited by such love.
Passionate in love:
This is the classic romantic love we imagine when we think of a hunk like Wolverine (or, if you want to be old-school, Prince Charming) sweeping us up in his arms. It's intensely satisfying, an emotional and physical tornado that grabs you and whisks you away. While passionate couples might mellow out and become more affectionate over time, they still value strong chemistry and a sense that they were meant to be. Think about “Titanic," where Jack and Rose have a whirlwind romance and vow to never let go.
Passionate lovers bonded by love marriage, tend to have a secure attachment style, meaning that they feel confident and comfortable in relationships. This turns out to be their biggest asset. But, the most challenging things may be balancing the intensity of your love affairs with the other relationships in your life. A rush of love gives you more energy and focus, so you smile more and talk with a higher voice pitch, which makes you more attractive. You even have brighter eyes, rosier cheeks, smoother skin, and fuller lips. All these add up to your beauty.
Selfless in love:
Selfless lovers would do anything for love. Their partners come first no matter how big the sacrifice and they spend more time focusing on what they can give than what they want to get. Their connection is more spiritual than sexual—soul mates to the nth degree. It can be like the movie "The Princess Bride," where Westley nearly dies saving Buttercup and only true love keeps his heart beating. Such relationships can be enormously fulfilling and offer you a great sense of purpose. Although within this while giving everything to another person, you can easily forget that sometimes you need attention too.
Anything too much can hurt. So, here are some ideas, how to balance your love-and life-and surrounding. Because any mess can affect your well-being. Try out these steps along with your love to lead a healthy life:
Give your friends some face time:
Passionate lovers are easily swept away in a flurry of sheets and hours of intense conversation. With all that energy focused on your partner, it's easy to forget that you do have some friends who want to see you too. Plan a girls' night or a coffee date to make sure they still know you care about them. (After all, you will need someone to give you a Kleenex and a hug if you do break up one day.)
Pursue your own interests:
Especially at the beginning of a relationship, passionate couples might want to spend all their time together. Part of keeping passion running high is having a life outside your relationship that you can share with each other.
Show love during fights:
With passions running high, you and your life partner may find yourself in a fair number of fights. Fighting won't harm your relationship, but how you fight does matter. Make sure to focus the conversation on how you feel, listen to your partner's point of view and focus your complaints on the action that upset you, not the person.
Never Block out "self time":
Even selfless people need a little "self time"—time that's carved out for you and only you when you can do whatever your heart desires. Take a long walk, go to a movie, get a massage, get lunch with friends, attend a book club meeting, check out a museum exhibit, whatever you enjoy. You spend so much time tending to other people's needs that it's important to spend a little time addressing your own. So once a week, take some totally guilt-free, indulgent time to enjoy yourself.
Take up journaling:
For someone as other-oriented as you are, your own feelings can get lost in the mix. Journaling every day (even when you feel you have nothing to say) can be a great way to make sure you don't lose touch with your own feelings and needs. Journaling improves psychological health and has even been shown to aid weight loss, so make a habit of it and just put three pages of whatever comes to mind on the page. Writing your own thoughts each day will allow you to be more present for your partner.
Assert your own needs:
Selfless lovers may be more likely to feel that asserting their own needs is an imposition on their partner. In fact, clearly communicating what you need can improve closeness and relationship health so that nothing builds up under the surface over time. You care for your partner so well—let them care for you too sometimes. 

Thursday 6 December 2012


Bad money snafus happen to good people. The common mistakes women make—and what to do instead. Not all women make these mistakes. Not all men avoid them. But these are a few female financial problem areas that have been analyzed, which can lead to major debt and lots of stress.
A 2011 study found that 67% of women have felt guilt about a purchase. But that's not the only opportunity for guilt: There's also staying in a job you feel guilty about abandoning, giving someone money because you feel guilty about their situation and, oh, doing the opposite of what you want when it comes to working after having children because you feel guilty about being a good mom (more on that here).
This guilt effect might not be limited to finances, either. Some studies suggest that women are more inclined than men to feel any kind of guilt. And we'd argue, more likely to bail out their exes, too. But see the next slide for more on that type of financial transgression.
It's long been said that women are more empathetic than men--they're instinctively attuned to what others are thinking and feeling. But one study published in Psychology Today suggests that this empathy isn't an innate quality, it's just that women try harder to empathize. Another study found that women feel equal levels of empathy no matter how they feel about the other person's morality, whereas male empathy is conditional on a moral judgment. In other words, they empathize only if the other person is worthy.
So when women are actively trying to be understanding, and naturally not judging, you get saviors. The savior lends money to her mother/sister/friend/boyfriend/girlfriend/neighbor to alleviate their burdens, by taking on that burden herself. The next time someone else's finances look tight; direct them toward our financial planners instead. Lending money is a lovely gesture, but it's even nicer to help them set up a long-term financial plan.
Women can have trouble saying no. Whether in the office or at home, some women have a hard time advocating for themselves, especially when it means turning down a request. And it's understandable. Studies show that although women who advocate for themselves in the workplace are rewarded with due promotion (nice!), such behavior is often perceived as "aggressive" and "unlikeable" when it's from someone wearing heels (not nice).
But you can do more than just ask nicely to get your money back. It's important that you sign a contract or agreement when borrowing or lending a considerable amount of money. In fact, documents like prenups were created for just this sort of situation.
Everyone knows that a lady can't resist shoes. (Kidding!) But retail therapy, or shopping to influence your mood, is both common and unwise. A survey out of the University of Hertfordshire found that the primary motivation for 79% of respondents to shop was to "cheer them up." Emotional spending is one of the main culprits for bad spending triggers.

"I divorced my husband after seven years together (and two children) and discovered that I did not exist! Nothing, including car insurance and license plates, belonged to me. I had no credit, which I needed for car insurance. Since then, I've been rebuilding my credit, starting with the money I earned from melting down my wedding ring."

We constantly hear from women who spent years taking the hands-off approach to their finances, but are thrust into the responsibility of gaining financial knowledge on their own.
It's crucial to not only build your own credit history (so you can take out loans for major purchases down the road, like a house or car, but also to save for retirement (especially as a woman—here's why) and know the financial basics in case you ever need them.
It's terrifying how many couples don't discuss their finances until something goes terribly wrong. To be fair, the blame for this mistake probably lies equally with both partners. We like to use the term "financial intimacy" to describe a situation where both partners in a relationship have an awareness and mastery of the finances.
You have to put on your own oxygen mask before you can assist others. It's as true in personal finance as it is at 30,000 feet. Waylaying your retirement money for your child's college tuition or draining your savings for summers away at camp will leave your children's support system (you) unbalanced.
Obviously, we leave it to your discretion when deciding which expenses for your children come first, but a situation like the one above isn't good for anybody, including the kids. You're no good to your family if you're no good to yourself. We've discussed before why splurging on yourself (or even just taking care of your expenses!) is so critical to the wellbeing of you and your family.