Saturday 29 December 2012


We were dresses to convey an impression of ourselves to people, but at the end of day we dress according to our moods or how we feel.  Our outfit reflects the state of our mind. How we are feeling.

When we open our closet door in the morning, we may choose clothes not according to the practical wardrobe consideration but according to our feelings. Our moods can be happy or sad. If we are happy, we tend to select cloth, which is well cut and figure enhancing. They are mostly made up of bright and beautiful fabrics. In the other hand, when we are in a bad mood we gravitate toward baggy tops and jeans, though jeans is consider a happy outfit but its rated below and taken under consideration if paired with appropriate jewelry and shoes.

Our mood gets reflected when we wear a uniform. A good is visible when a uniform is worn that got no creases and paired with bright cardigan or a fancy jacket, whereas the vice verse can be felt when a gray hoodie or a saggy sweater is worn over it.

Other than moods, dresses can reflect what we feel about ourselves. If we have a low self esteem and don’t feel good about our body, we wear clothes that hide us. We also take less effort to look presentable. A positive vibe about ourselves can make us choose more flattering and noticeable outfits. 

Changing our clothes can change our mood. Sometimes we like to use this idea or get trapped in this. So, we sometime wear our favorite outfit to boost our mood. In this way self-esteem and confidence raises up. Whereas, our mood gets darken, if we wear drab, unflattering clothes.

By applying the basic behavioral therapy of fashion application we can turn our low feeling in to a happy one. Avoiding the impulse toward clothes that reflect that bad feeling, we can go for something that we usually choose on a happy day. It’s all like having a chocolate ice cream during a heart break or a fight.

We all deserve to be happy. So, try to choose happy day clothes whenever you are selecting a outfit, irrespective of our moods.


Friday 7 December 2012


"Whether love is all you need or you're Miss Independent, being in love is a whole new world with every relationship. You might be in a passionate affair or a friends-for-life 30-year marriage, but understanding the kind of love you’re in-or used to be in-will help you live happily ever after. The type of love you're in differs between relationships and even different times in your life. Still, you may be more prone to one type of love or another, but a PASSIONATE and SELFLESS one is what girls dreamed of. So, here is a quick preview on how it looks or feels like or how we are benefited by such love.
Passionate in love:
This is the classic romantic love we imagine when we think of a hunk like Wolverine (or, if you want to be old-school, Prince Charming) sweeping us up in his arms. It's intensely satisfying, an emotional and physical tornado that grabs you and whisks you away. While passionate couples might mellow out and become more affectionate over time, they still value strong chemistry and a sense that they were meant to be. Think about “Titanic," where Jack and Rose have a whirlwind romance and vow to never let go.
Passionate lovers bonded by love marriage, tend to have a secure attachment style, meaning that they feel confident and comfortable in relationships. This turns out to be their biggest asset. But, the most challenging things may be balancing the intensity of your love affairs with the other relationships in your life. A rush of love gives you more energy and focus, so you smile more and talk with a higher voice pitch, which makes you more attractive. You even have brighter eyes, rosier cheeks, smoother skin, and fuller lips. All these add up to your beauty.
Selfless in love:
Selfless lovers would do anything for love. Their partners come first no matter how big the sacrifice and they spend more time focusing on what they can give than what they want to get. Their connection is more spiritual than sexual—soul mates to the nth degree. It can be like the movie "The Princess Bride," where Westley nearly dies saving Buttercup and only true love keeps his heart beating. Such relationships can be enormously fulfilling and offer you a great sense of purpose. Although within this while giving everything to another person, you can easily forget that sometimes you need attention too.
Anything too much can hurt. So, here are some ideas, how to balance your love-and life-and surrounding. Because any mess can affect your well-being. Try out these steps along with your love to lead a healthy life:
Give your friends some face time:
Passionate lovers are easily swept away in a flurry of sheets and hours of intense conversation. With all that energy focused on your partner, it's easy to forget that you do have some friends who want to see you too. Plan a girls' night or a coffee date to make sure they still know you care about them. (After all, you will need someone to give you a Kleenex and a hug if you do break up one day.)
Pursue your own interests:
Especially at the beginning of a relationship, passionate couples might want to spend all their time together. Part of keeping passion running high is having a life outside your relationship that you can share with each other.
Show love during fights:
With passions running high, you and your life partner may find yourself in a fair number of fights. Fighting won't harm your relationship, but how you fight does matter. Make sure to focus the conversation on how you feel, listen to your partner's point of view and focus your complaints on the action that upset you, not the person.
Never Block out "self time":
Even selfless people need a little "self time"—time that's carved out for you and only you when you can do whatever your heart desires. Take a long walk, go to a movie, get a massage, get lunch with friends, attend a book club meeting, check out a museum exhibit, whatever you enjoy. You spend so much time tending to other people's needs that it's important to spend a little time addressing your own. So once a week, take some totally guilt-free, indulgent time to enjoy yourself.
Take up journaling:
For someone as other-oriented as you are, your own feelings can get lost in the mix. Journaling every day (even when you feel you have nothing to say) can be a great way to make sure you don't lose touch with your own feelings and needs. Journaling improves psychological health and has even been shown to aid weight loss, so make a habit of it and just put three pages of whatever comes to mind on the page. Writing your own thoughts each day will allow you to be more present for your partner.
Assert your own needs:
Selfless lovers may be more likely to feel that asserting their own needs is an imposition on their partner. In fact, clearly communicating what you need can improve closeness and relationship health so that nothing builds up under the surface over time. You care for your partner so well—let them care for you too sometimes. 

Thursday 6 December 2012


Bad money snafus happen to good people. The common mistakes women make—and what to do instead. Not all women make these mistakes. Not all men avoid them. But these are a few female financial problem areas that have been analyzed, which can lead to major debt and lots of stress.
A 2011 study found that 67% of women have felt guilt about a purchase. But that's not the only opportunity for guilt: There's also staying in a job you feel guilty about abandoning, giving someone money because you feel guilty about their situation and, oh, doing the opposite of what you want when it comes to working after having children because you feel guilty about being a good mom (more on that here).
This guilt effect might not be limited to finances, either. Some studies suggest that women are more inclined than men to feel any kind of guilt. And we'd argue, more likely to bail out their exes, too. But see the next slide for more on that type of financial transgression.
It's long been said that women are more empathetic than men--they're instinctively attuned to what others are thinking and feeling. But one study published in Psychology Today suggests that this empathy isn't an innate quality, it's just that women try harder to empathize. Another study found that women feel equal levels of empathy no matter how they feel about the other person's morality, whereas male empathy is conditional on a moral judgment. In other words, they empathize only if the other person is worthy.
So when women are actively trying to be understanding, and naturally not judging, you get saviors. The savior lends money to her mother/sister/friend/boyfriend/girlfriend/neighbor to alleviate their burdens, by taking on that burden herself. The next time someone else's finances look tight; direct them toward our financial planners instead. Lending money is a lovely gesture, but it's even nicer to help them set up a long-term financial plan.
Women can have trouble saying no. Whether in the office or at home, some women have a hard time advocating for themselves, especially when it means turning down a request. And it's understandable. Studies show that although women who advocate for themselves in the workplace are rewarded with due promotion (nice!), such behavior is often perceived as "aggressive" and "unlikeable" when it's from someone wearing heels (not nice).
But you can do more than just ask nicely to get your money back. It's important that you sign a contract or agreement when borrowing or lending a considerable amount of money. In fact, documents like prenups were created for just this sort of situation.
Everyone knows that a lady can't resist shoes. (Kidding!) But retail therapy, or shopping to influence your mood, is both common and unwise. A survey out of the University of Hertfordshire found that the primary motivation for 79% of respondents to shop was to "cheer them up." Emotional spending is one of the main culprits for bad spending triggers.

"I divorced my husband after seven years together (and two children) and discovered that I did not exist! Nothing, including car insurance and license plates, belonged to me. I had no credit, which I needed for car insurance. Since then, I've been rebuilding my credit, starting with the money I earned from melting down my wedding ring."

We constantly hear from women who spent years taking the hands-off approach to their finances, but are thrust into the responsibility of gaining financial knowledge on their own.
It's crucial to not only build your own credit history (so you can take out loans for major purchases down the road, like a house or car, but also to save for retirement (especially as a woman—here's why) and know the financial basics in case you ever need them.
It's terrifying how many couples don't discuss their finances until something goes terribly wrong. To be fair, the blame for this mistake probably lies equally with both partners. We like to use the term "financial intimacy" to describe a situation where both partners in a relationship have an awareness and mastery of the finances.
You have to put on your own oxygen mask before you can assist others. It's as true in personal finance as it is at 30,000 feet. Waylaying your retirement money for your child's college tuition or draining your savings for summers away at camp will leave your children's support system (you) unbalanced.
Obviously, we leave it to your discretion when deciding which expenses for your children come first, but a situation like the one above isn't good for anybody, including the kids. You're no good to your family if you're no good to yourself. We've discussed before why splurging on yourself (or even just taking care of your expenses!) is so critical to the wellbeing of you and your family.

Wednesday 28 November 2012


We all love our family. Our siblings were our best partner or best friend during our early childhood. But, we tend to replace them as we start moving out and mingle with the world (whether school or college or office). We start to understand things and during any argument try to draw attention toward the age-old mistakes done by our sisters or brothers. Although from the core of our heart we love, care and want to improve our relationship with our siblings. However, we don’t find any way to do so. So, here are some preferred guidelines that can make a difference.

The old quarrels, misunderstandings, or misdeeds can keep you suffocated under your own frustration. Remember anger can only hurt you. Try not to accuse your siblings for their early mischief. Take a conscious effort to forget and forgive those deeds and soon you will find them washed out of your head. Past can be a nice place to troll but not to dwell. Thus, leave the past and move forward.

We don’t speak rubbish to our friends and don’t expect anyone to say so to us, then why there should be an exception for our siblings. Mind your manner whenever you speak. Though that doesn't mean you have to behave formally with you sisters or brothers, but try to be polite and avoid petty comments.

Spending time together improves any relationship and a sibling relationship is not an odd man out. Make it sure that you visit all the parties thrown by your family and siblings. At-least have a meal together if all of you stay in one house. Go out for a vacation with them. Text or call them and try to have a good interactions in their social networking pages. Find out the common things about both of you and go ahead to do those stuffs together. Make a list of things they like and use them as a healthy weapon to win their heart or to choose a perfect present to gift them (there is need of any occasion).

Poking your nose in other’s matters will give a bad impression about your self-dignity and self-control. Give them their space and respect their privacy.  If you feel something is wrong, then with all the possible reasons explain them the consequences, later; when both of you are alone. Two persons always have different opinions on different topics, so try to be open-minded and be a patient listener.

We sometimes feel jealous about other so good sibling relationship, but it’s never late to take the first step to improve yours.  Being nice and still protecting your self-respect can be the key to your success. We all know that at the bottom of our heart we love our little devils (sisters and brothers).

Tuesday 27 November 2012


Our teeth give the structure to our face. Losing them might turn into a nightmare for us. Brushing flossing, seeing our dentist once in 6 months are the basic things we need to follow. Moreover, the reasons why all these are needed to be done, their proper procedure and their utter necessities are mentioned below:
Brushing twice a day is very important. We must do it to avoid any kind of bacterial germ build up from the left over of food in our mouth. We should brush for at least two minutes. It is said that 2 minute time can be enough for us to get rid of our tooth plaques. One should gently brush the head slowly in back-and-forth motions all over the outside top teeth, inside top, outside bottom and inside bottom for 30 seconds, each.  Do not put excess pressure as it may hurt your gums. Do a gentle massage over the gums and soft brush to clean your tongue to avoid bad breath. Change your brush after every 3 months.
Flossing helps you to clean your teeth fully; else, it will remain 40% clean. According to the dentist, flossing prevents tooth decay and periodontal diseases. Take care that the floss passes barely between the teeth and gently touches the gums. Thicker or waxed varieties should be preferred. Never jam them between your teeth as they may make your gums bleed.
Don’t use your teeth to open a bottle, or any tightly packed container. Stay away from foods that can stain. Some of the staining food items are blueberries, soy sauce, balsamic vinegar, tomato sauce, red wine, coffee, tea, and grape juice. Drink water to flush away the stains immediately after consuming such foods. Celery, carrots, apples, broccoli, lettuce, and spinach help in whitening your teeth, or providing a protective layer over it. So, make a habit of having them as often as you can.
If your gums are bleeding or you see plaques deposited in the inner side of your teeth or you see a swollen gum, visit a dentist immediately. These may be the signs of a serious oral disease. Take a routine check up after every 6 month to ensure your oral health. Maintain a proper posture to correct your jaw alignment. Touch your teeth while eating to prevent their clenching during your sleep.
Keep smiling.

Thursday 22 November 2012


Eyebrows define your face.  The most preferred eyebrow style, high-arched, is always not the ideal choice. Different face shapes look good in different shapes of eyebrows. It’s very important to choose the perfect eyebrow shape to achieve the best eye makeup while preparing yourself, whether for a party or office or hanging out with friends or just to get a perfect look.
There are different kinds of face structures. Most common of them are square face, round face, oval face, long face and heart shaped face. Choosing the best brows can be challenging. So, here are some tips to get an appropriate brow that will look young and polished on your face:
There are two types of square faces. One is the normal one and other is the long one. A moderately thick brow with a subtle arch suits both of the shapes well. This will make your forehead look wide and will also balance the proportion of your face. Try to avoid a high arc brow. It will look overpowering and will give an eye up look instead of eye out.
Round face beauties can feel blessed, as they have the flexibility of experimenting with their brows. But, it’s best to go with slim medium arch brow shape for all the round and round square faced ladies. It will help your face to thin out. It’s up to you that how skinny you want your brows to look. You can go for different thickness and find out what suits you the best.
According to the face proportions, an oval face lady can opt for the all time favorite, coveted high eyebrow.  Thinner high arches are really an attention-grabbing element. So, this power bro will definitely give you a pro look.
Long and long heart faces are always considered regal and elegant. To divert the attention from the ups and downs of the face, all those elegant faced ladies can go for a straight, medium thick brow with a very subtle arch. This will draw the eye-catch outwards and will give a flamboyance to your beauty. Never try a too arched or a curvy brow, as you won’t like a perma-surprised look.

Monday 19 November 2012


Life is all about knowing each other well and loving each other more, day by day. It sounds perfect but, the truth is bit different. The word perfect doesn't exist in a relationships. Nobody is flawless. Men and women have different views, needs and priorities. We all have our differences and that’s what makes us unique. But, sometimes these differences become hard to handle. It will be unwise to overlook the matter rather than clearing and accepting it. Whenever we tend to fall in hard times, we are feed with different opinions and various ways to tackle them, in turn the situation gets worse. And, some chronological ideas which can make a relationship tumble more are always on the run. So, I figured out some common myths about any relationship problem. Out of them, the most common two are stated below:
Make your life an open book to your life partner, seems to be the foremost choice of every couple, either being hooked up for an arranged marriage or starting a love relationship. But, before you do so, give a second thought to it. It can turn thing negatively, as everybody got a different outlook. It may create misunderstandings. Your words can get mis-interrupted.  You may reveal something that your partner can’t handle and realize later that those things would have been best kept secret. Think before you speak. Judge your partner’s mentality and then, open chapters of your life that he is more likely to accept.
Bottling up your emotions will create an unknown distance between couples. But, it won’t work most of the time. When the fire is up its not smart enough to put your finger in it or add some ghee to it. Keep patience. It’s the only way to achieve a successful relationship. If you tend to pour out your emotions while your partner is not in a mental state to accept it; it will only lead to unheard cries , as s/he is same as you. Let everything calm down and then clarify all the issues with a cool head.
Happily ever after is easy in fairy tales but, hard in real life and sometimes impossible. Act wise and complement each other. In that way you might get lucky to build the so-called perfect relationship.