Marriages are made in Heaven. The most common words said by any parents to their daughters. But, how to know, which guy can be the perfect mate for you or with whom you can live happily ever after. If you are not in love or your intuitions are not guiding, then there are a few steps with which you can choose a better person for you.
It is always better to choose a partner with similar temperaments. Much research had been conducted where it’s prescribed to identify the compatibility of the couples with the help of following characteristics: Extroversion, Neuroticism, Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Openness, Positive emotions, Negative emotions, Avoidance, Anxiety, Fearful–secure, Negativity of the self-model, Negativity of the other-model, Dismissing–preoccupied, Ego-resiliency and Dis-inhibition.
Two people can feel attracted to each other because of instinct, infatuation, love or just plain physical attraction. But that won’t resolve the problem because, love doesn't feed you. Before selecting a partner always try to think practically. Think of the most common issues that may arrive after your marriage. Let’s start with the finance. You are not asked to marry a millionaire, but a financially stable person must always be preferred. Select what are the things you would like to have in your life partner. Go for various dates more than once to know them better. Breaking a date is better than breaking a marriage. If you don’t like something about him, say it and see if he rectifies it or not. If he can’t adjust now, he won’t in the future. Never imagine your partner to change after marriage.
If you are a non-working woman then it won’t be tough for you to manage all the household works in a whole day, but if you are a working woman and don’t want to quit your career, then the scenario would be very different. You must resolve all those issues which may appear if you go out, to work. Try to talk out and divide the way the house will run, ranging from daily cooking and cleaning to washing and diving finances. If he is not willing to give you a hand in the house hold works, then the relationship might need a second thought. Go for a person with sound health as you will never want to marry a feeble guy and do all the pushing and pulling all by yourself or spend most of the day remembering his doctor's appointments and medicine names.
A marriage doesn't end between the individuals. Go for a family outing to see how well he blends with your parents or other family members. Have an ice-cream party with the neighborhood kids and see how comfortable he is with the kids. As you have to justify how well he will be the father of your future children or how can he act more like a son than son-in-law. Try to check out his friends, as we know birds of the same feather flocks together. You don’t have to go spying around him, but try to mingle with his fellows, in that way you can know him and his habits better. I believe you won’t feel like marrying a guy who is alcoholic or always gets a weak knee whenever a girl with short clothes passes by or a person with bad mouth.
Nobody beholds the future, but with a little bit of precautions and an extra research on your future spouse like their likes, dislikes, desires and goals for his future, may turn your current date to the would-be prince charming of your life.
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